When I envisioned life as a new mom, I imagined seamlessly juggling tasks, with my infant nestled on my hip while I cleaned, paid bills, and engaged in witty banter with my partner. I thought life would simply continue, with my adorable baby in tow.
Little did I know how naïve that fantasy was. The reality of caring for an infant was far from my expectations. My little ones were anything but passive. They cried, nursed non-stop, and demanded my full attention. In those early months, even putting them down for a moment was often out of the question.
While I now have the luxury of accomplishing many things that once felt impossible, I want to reassure all new moms that feeling overwhelmed is entirely normal. Your life will undoubtedly take a different shape for a while. Yes, it may feel like you’re getting absolutely nothing done. Yes, it’s disorienting and strange. No, you’re not alone. And yes, it does get easier (at least to some extent).
Here are some common hurdles you might find yourself facing:
- Eating With Two Hands
I lost count of how many meals I attempted with a baby perched on my lap. It was a messy affair, leaving one or both of us covered in crumbs. - Leaving Home Without a Two-Hour Preparation
It’s amusing in hindsight, but getting out the door felt like a major expedition. And just when I thought we were ready, my baby would decide it was time for a diaper change. - Formulating a Complete Thought
Forget articulating my thoughts; I struggled to keep track of my own ideas. “Mom brain” is a real phenomenon, folks. - Taking Care of Yourself
There was a time when I showered daily. With a newborn, I often found myself resorting to baby wipes for a quick clean-up. Who knew postpartum sweats could be so intense? - Cleaning Anything Thoroughly
I’d start cleaning the kitchen only to be interrupted by a nursing session. Keeping my living space tidy felt like an endless cycle, taking me a week to accomplish what should have taken a day. - Making Phone Calls
Family members may have felt neglected when I didn’t return their calls. But once you have a baby, phone conversations take a backseat. - Reading a Book or Watching TV
I adored reading novels, yet I went nearly four years without cracking one open after my first child arrived. Even a 30-minute show could stretch into three nights of fragmented viewing. - Keeping Track of the Days
In those early days, I genuinely lost track of what day it was. It took me a while to discern if it was morning or afternoon, especially as winter turned to spring while I was in my new-mom fog.
Why is it so challenging to accomplish anything? Besides the lack of sleep (and let’s not get started on the “sleep when the baby sleeps” advice—most of us can’t actually manage that), it’s tough to tear your gaze away from your beautiful baby. I could spend hours marveling at them, soaking in every detail. While it may have been a time sink, I have no regrets. Those fleeting moments are precious, especially now that my boys are growing up so quickly.
So hang in there, share your frustrations, and remember to find a bit of humor in the chaos. These early days won’t last forever, and soon enough, you’ll be able to finish a sentence without interruption.
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Summary:
Welcoming a newborn comes with its unique challenges that can leave new parents feeling overwhelmed. From the struggle of eating with two hands to losing track of time, it’s a period filled with adjustments. Remember that you’re not alone in this journey, and that with time, things will get easier.
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