Ah, the journey of motherhood is a wild ride, isn’t it? Each stage of childhood brings its own set of challenges. You may feel like you’re going through the motions during the newborn phase, tiptoeing through infancy, and breezing through those delightful toddler years. You might even find yourself running in circles during the early childhood and tween stages, eagerly anticipating a moment of respite as your little ones transition into their teenage years.
“Enjoy this time!” they said. “Your teens are becoming independent! They can take care of themselves! They drive themselves to school and sports!” Sounds like a dream, right?
Well, not for everyone, and certainly not for me. If I could be candid, I wish I could embrace the whirlwind of adolescence (also known as “hormonal chaos with zero filters”), but let’s be real: it’s a struggle.
Claiming that the teen years are without their trials would be a serious understatement. These are the years when you’d think you could finally catch a break, but instead, you find yourself facing a barrage of challenges. Contrary to popular belief, teens still need guidance and support, and the notion that they require little adult supervision is often a myth.
What you once envisioned as a blissful time is now a headache that seems to drag on from year 13 until they leave for good. Those years you longed for? You might find yourself wishing them away instead. They are nothing as you expected.
And here’s a comforting thought: it’s perfectly okay to not love every moment of this phase of parenting. Just as some moms cringe at the newborn stage while others adore it, the same applies to the teen years. Some mothers find joy in their teens’ ever-changing personalities and moods, while others struggle to connect. I’m definitely in the latter camp.
Honestly, the teen years hit me like a ton of bricks. I felt like I had walked into a chaotic college dormitory—rooms strewn with clothes and an array of unfamiliar faces. The sweet child who once went to bed with soft lullabies now roams the house like a mini-adult with a booming voice and a five-o’clock shadow.
From conversations with friends, I hear similar tales. One day your agreeable daughter is a sweet angel, and the next, she’s channeling Cersei Lannister. Guess who gets to navigate those turbulent waters? You.
Whether you have a son or daughter, the teenage years are not for the faint-hearted. If you find yourself reminiscing about the days when a nap and a lollipop could solve most problems, you’re not alone. Many of us share this sentiment, finding the teen years to be a mix of frustration and bewilderment. It’s absolutely okay if these years aren’t your favorite. You are still fully capable of raising decent teenagers, even while entertaining thoughts of smothering them with a pillow (just kidding… sort of).
Having gone through this with my first child, I’m nearing the end of the journey with my second and preparing for my third and fourth round of teenage chaos. I refuse to feel guilty for not wanting to cozy up with the moody stranger that has taken over my son’s personality, or for not feeling warm and fuzzy as he devours two large pizzas in a matter of seconds without so much as a “thank you.” One key lesson I’ve learned through this experience is not to take things personally. Your beloved child is still in there, buried under layers of teenage snark.
I can assure you that mine resurfaced a few weeks after he left for college. The same kid who insisted he didn’t need a mother anymore transformed back into someone who craved my support—albeit as a mature young adult. That realization more than makes up for the years of angst and teenage turmoil. In fact, it might just be one of the best feelings in the world.
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Summary
Navigating the teenage years can be a challenging experience for many moms. Each stage of childhood presents unique difficulties, and while some mothers embrace the independence of their teens, others find this phase frustrating. It’s perfectly normal to not love every moment of parenting a teenager, and understanding that your child is still there beneath the surface is crucial. With patience and support, you can survive these tumultuous years and emerge with a stronger bond.
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