It’s 4 p.m., and I feel completely drained. Last night was a sleepless one, thanks to my feverish, coughing 3-year-old. Dinner is in progress on the stove, and I’m desperately trying to avoid overcooking the broccoli, knowing full well my older son wouldn’t touch it if I do. Meanwhile, my little one is taking what seems like forever on the potty, and I dread the impending clean-up—while simultaneously keeping an eye on dinner.
As I juggle these tasks, my phone buzzes with work emails, and my mom is texting me about weekend plans. Just then, my older son excitedly approaches, rambling about the latest video game that’s captured his attention. In the background, my younger son starts coughing violently from the bathroom, and I can’t help but worry—is this just a cold, or is it something more serious? Should I contact the doctor?
Suddenly, my breath quickens, and my heart races—anxiety, my ever-present companion, has arrived.
The Weight of Anxiety
For those of us who wrestle with anxiety, it’s moments like this that tip us over the edge. While stress is a universal experience, anxious individuals often feel it more acutely. Our emotional barriers are thin, and when life’s pressures pile up—like mine did today—we can easily feel overwhelmed.
As parents, we often have no option but to push through. Let’s be honest—parenting is inherently stressful. The constant demands of caring for and nurturing our children can be relentless, filled with unexpected challenges and moments that leave us feeling scared.
In these high-pressure situations, anxiety can bubble to the surface, demanding our attention when we need to be present for our kids. Opportunities for calmness or deep breaths are scarce.
Struggling to Stay Present
While I don’t frequently experience full-blown anxiety attacks in front of my kids, I have had my share of them while parenting. I strive to shield my children from my struggles, yet when my anxiety peaks, I sometimes find myself saying, “Mommy needs a moment,” hoping to collect myself.
Even on days when I manage to keep my composure, my thoughts often drift, preoccupied with worries or plans that seem urgent. I can’t help but wonder if my children notice this and how it affects them.
When I’m in the kitchen, surrounded by chaos, does my older son realize that I’m barely engaging with him as he enthusiastically talks about his favorite video games? Does he feel like I’m simply too busy to listen, or does he sense that I’m mentally elsewhere, caught in a whirlwind of stress?
Worries About the Future
I sometimes catch glimpses of anxiety in my kids, and I’m left questioning if it’s just typical childhood worry or if they’ve inherited some of my anxious tendencies. This thought haunts me as I ponder how to protect them from becoming anxious adults and if there’s anything I can truly do about it.
In my heart, I often apologize to my kids for my anxiety and the impact it may have on their lives. Sometimes I vocalize it: “I’m sorry I can’t focus on your video game stories right now,” I tell my older son. “I feel overwhelmed, like my brain is a computer with 17 tabs open.”
While he may chuckle at my analogy, I wonder if he truly grasps my apology. Will he remember me as a parent who was often distant, lost in thought and unable to be fully present?
The Journey of Acceptance
Anxious parents can be their own worst critics, and it’s a struggle unique to our experience. Yet, every parent desires for their children to feel secure and at peace.
I don’t have all the answers. I’m committed to practicing self-care, attending therapy, and exercising—strategies that help keep my anxiety manageable.
But for those times when my anxiety seeps into my parenting, I can’t help but feel remorseful and guilty. I mourn the moments I wish were different.
I’m learning to accept that this is part of who I am, and perhaps my concern for my children is indicative of my commitment to being a good parent. I can only hope that they recognize it that way—and if they don’t, that they will find it in their hearts to forgive me for my shortcomings.
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Summary
Parenting while managing anxiety is a challenging journey. In moments of chaos, it’s easy to feel overwhelmed and disconnected from our children. This article reflects on the struggles of an anxious parent, the guilt of feeling distant, and the hope for understanding and forgiveness from their kids.
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