By Jessica Harper
Motherhood is the ultimate equalizer. Regardless of socioeconomic status or age, every mother shares in the beautifully chaotic journey of raising children. No matter how well you think you’re managing, I bet you’re feeling utterly exhausted and know firsthand what real struggle feels like. Ironically, motherhood is also the most humbling, relentless, and competitive role you can take on.
Moms are the most selfless beings on the planet, yet we often fall into the trap of martyrdom. We hear the advice to take it easy on ourselves, but we disregard it, pushing ourselves to the brink day after day. We’re told to prioritize self-care to prevent burnout, but somehow, we find ourselves neglecting our own needs. We might let the laundry pile up or ignore that messy kitchen, but instead, we scroll through Pinterest, envying picture-perfect homes that make us feel inadequate.
Anxiety, fatigue, and the desire for simplicity often fill our minds, yet we fill our schedules with endless tasks, running ourselves ragged. We bribe ourselves to rise in the morning and coax ourselves back to bed after long days, hardly taking a moment to acknowledge the toll these routines take on us.
Somewhere along the way, we’ve forgotten how to love ourselves and live with gratitude. Instead, we find ourselves caught in a whirlwind of rushed, chaotic living while we criticize ourselves for not measuring up. But what if we decided to change that?
What if we made a “Just For Today” list and committed to it? What if we replaced the resentment, frustration, and negativity we harbor with love? Love in every form — compassion, forgiveness, patience, joy, kindness, and especially unconditional love. And what if we started by loving the mom that we are today?
Just for today, let’s try this:
- When I wake up feeling impatient and overwhelmed, I won’t see it as failure. I’ll remind myself that I am the only mother my kids need, and even on my worst days, my love is enough.
- When I catch sight of another mom who seems to have it all figured out, I won’t feel bitterness. Instead, I’ll appreciate my own body and the incredible ways it nurtures and supports my family.
- When I look around at the chaos in my home, I’ll tackle one small task and then let the rest go. I’ll remember that I’m not competing in a cleanliness contest.
- When self-doubt creeps in, and I think others are raising better kids, I’ll remind myself that appearances can be deceiving. Everyone has struggles, even those who seem perfect on social media.
- When exhaustion hits and I find myself snapping at my kids or being short with my partner, I’ll remember that they don’t need perfection; they just need me.
- When my to-do list feels like an ultimatum, I’ll take a step back and focus on the present moment instead of racing ahead to tomorrow. I’ll strive to appreciate the beauty in the simple days, as they ultimately shape our lives.
- And when society and social media bombard me with unrealistic expectations, I’ll remind myself that the only opinions that matter are the ones from those who truly understand the journey. I’m not doing anything wrong; I’m navigating this path with all its imperfections — honestly, imperfectly, and filled with love.
Today, I embraced the mom I am. If I can carry that love into tomorrow, that will be a true victory.
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In summary, let’s take a moment to appreciate the moms we are, embrace our flaws, and practice self-love.
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