As a mother to a spirited 4-year-old who often swings between pretending to be a fierce warrior or a magical princess, I find it essential to nurture her innate confidence. She believes that powerful characters can create incredible moments, and my mission is to ensure that no one diminishes that spark. Thankfully, that has yet to be a challenge—fingers crossed!
Fast forward a decade or two, and my fearless daughter will venture into the world of dating. This will likely involve meeting various boys, some of whom may try to undermine her strength. While I fully support her independence and the choices she will make—both smart and questionable—I also want to equip her with some fundamental tools that will help her navigate relationships.
So, dear daughter, as you step into the dating arena in the distant future, here are some essential guidelines to keep in mind:
- Expect to be adored. Your partner should appreciate you wholeheartedly. You deserve to feel like a treasure, not an afterthought.
- Authenticity matters. If he’s always overly nice, question his sincerity. He should be able to challenge you constructively when necessary.
- Trust your instincts. Hormones can cloud your judgment, but your gut feelings will guide you accurately.
- Friendship is key. If he tries to isolate you from your loved ones, it’s time to leave—fast.
- Laughter is vital. You want to be sharing laughs when you’re older, so if he doesn’t make you giggle now, he probably won’t in the future.
- Apologies matter. He should have the humility to say he’s sorry, and you should practice the same.
- Jealousy isn’t love. If he constantly doubts your loyalty, there’s a deeper issue at play.
- Prioritize your pleasure. A good partner should care about your satisfaction just as much as his own.
- Variety is important. Date a diverse range of people; the one who truly ignites your spirit may surprise you.
- Engagement matters. You should be able to chat for hours about anything under the sun.
- Self-deprecating humor is a plus. If he can laugh at himself, he’s worth keeping around.
- Your body, your choice. Never compromise on your autonomy.
- Observe his family dynamics. How he treats his mother can be a good indicator of how he’ll treat you down the line.
- If you feel worse about yourself, it’s time to go. Don’t hesitate to run from anyone who dims your light.
- Don’t invest in childish games. If he’s playing mind games, focus your energy elsewhere.
- Be honest. If you’re not interested, kindly let him go rather than dragging things out.
- Respect your friends. Avoid dating your friends’ exes, even if they claim to be okay with it—they might not really mean it.
- Think long-term. As you consider settling down, reflect on where you want to be in 50 years. Does he fit into that vision? Does he make you laugh or roll your eyes? Hair or no hair, what truly matters?
This list will likely grow as you age, but it’s a solid starting point. My ultimate hope is that you never feel pressured to be anything less than your amazing self. And if someone gets you to eat your vegetables along the way, well, that’s a bonus!
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In summary, as you step into your future, keep these tools in your back pocket. They’re your armor in the ever-evolving world of dating.
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