A year ago, I found myself in quite the disheveled state—hair in a messy bun, yoga pants that hadn’t seen a washing machine in days, and a T-shirt marred with spit-up. When my partner walked through the door, I had the urge to apologize for my appearance, the pile of dirty dishes, and my slightly tipsy demeanor. But this time felt different; I was done apologizing. I had reached my limit with toddler tantrums, sleepless nights, and the never-ending laundry. Instead of apologizing, I embraced my reality and launched into a passionate discussion about the unfair expectations placed on mothers.
That moment was pivotal for me. I penned my thoughts and shared them on Cervical Insemination, and to my surprise, the response was overwhelming. I faced a mixture of applause and criticism, but I stood my ground, and my life has improved dramatically ever since. Inspired by that experience, I’m back to share 10 more things mothers should stop feeling guilty about.
1. Resting Mom Face
You’ve heard of “resting bitch face,” but let’s talk about “resting mom face.” This is the look that says, “I’m about to count to three,” and when you hit two with no results, your face scrunches up in sheer determination. I’ve perfected this look, and I refuse to apologize for it. After all, I’m managing two toddlers, so I’ve earned this expression.
2. Chicken Nuggets and Mac and Cheese
When I first became a parent, I had high hopes for my kids’ diets. But like many, I’ve found that reality clashed with those aspirations. My kids love their chicken nuggets and mac and cheese, and honestly, I splurge for the organic options, so that’s gotta count for something, right? If you’re vegan and feeling anxious about this, just relax—my kids are thriving!
3. Hiding in the Bathroom
Let’s be real—when chaos reigns with two tiny humans running wild, sometimes the bathroom becomes my sanctuary. I might browse through magazines or indulge in some lavender-scented soap to escape for a moment. It’s either that or risk losing my sanity entirely, so don’t judge!
4. Taking Anxiety Meds
If I could name another child, I’d probably choose Zoloft. Growing up, mental health wasn’t a topic of conversation, but postpartum depression changed everything for me. Seeking help was the best decision I made, and I’ve been grateful for my anxiety medication ever since. So, if anyone wants to shame me for prioritizing my mental well-being, they can take a hike.
5. Screen Time
There are plenty of debates about screen time turning kids into zombies. I felt guilty letting my little ones binge-watch shows while I worked, but when my toddler identified a hexagon outside, I realized it’s not all bad. Disney Channel? More like an educational tool in my book!
6. Working
I work because I need to and because I want to. If you think working moms are abandoning their children, you’re missing the point. Regardless of whether I’m home or out in the workforce, I’m hustling just like everyone else.
7. Yelling
I don’t enjoy raising my voice at my kids, but when they decide to run around naked in public, sometimes it’s necessary. I’m not trying to be a tyrant; I just don’t want a bathroom emergency on the floor.
8. Having an Opinion
Women have valid opinions just like men do, and just because we don’t always shout them from the rooftops doesn’t make them irrelevant. I love football, but I’m not shy about sharing my thoughts on the league’s issues. We’re all entitled to speak our minds!
9. Being Assertive
Why is it that when women assert themselves, they’re labeled as “difficult,” while men are seen as leaders? It’s high time we start recognizing assertive women as the bosses they truly are. If you can’t handle a strong woman, perhaps it’s time to reevaluate your perspective.
10. Not Caring About Societal Expectations
It’s 2023, and the idea that women should conform to outdated norms is long gone. Whether I choose to swear, have tattoos, or express my individuality, it’s on me—not anyone else. If my choices make someone uncomfortable, that’s their issue, not mine.
Ladies, we are the backbone of society. We deserve to occupy space and live authentically without apologies.
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Summary
Moms, it’s time to stop apologizing for being real. From your appearance to your parenting choices, embrace your life without guilt. Own your opinions, your mental health journey, and your personal choices.
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