A Letter to My Future Self as a First-Time Mom

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Hey there, future me!

It’s me again—16 years from now! That little bundle of joy you’re cradling right now? Well, surprise! He’s driving! And here’s a little secret: he’s actually a way better driver than you ever were. I know these thoughts seem far-fetched in your current state of sleep-deprived confusion, but I thought you might appreciate a sneak peek into how things will unfold in the coming years.

Before we dive into the driving part, let’s take a step back.

Dear younger, inexperienced first-time mom,

Brace yourself—your life is about to change in unimaginable ways, yet some things will remain steadfast.

Since you’re feeling overwhelmed and a bit down, let’s discuss what will change:

1. That C-Section: Despite the horror stories surrounding it, you’ll recover remarkably well. In fact, you’ll be grateful for the C-section after that exhausting labor. And stop beating yourself up over not having a vaginal birth! Remember that professor who preached about natural childbirth? Yeah, she didn’t have back labor with a nearly nine-pound baby. You did. Everyone’s journey is unique. Be thankful for modern medicine; it saves lives. The method of delivery doesn’t define your worth as a woman—what matters is the beautiful arrival of your child.
2. The Hospital Night: Those amazing nurses will offer to take your baby to the nursery so you can catch some sleep. Let them! You might think no one else can care for him like you do, but trust me, taking care of yourself is crucial. You’ll likely ignore this advice and keep your baby close, but sooner or later, exhaustion will set in. You’ll realize that a little rest is essential for you to be the best mom possible.
3. Breastfeeding: This will be one of the toughest challenges you face. They don’t prepare you for the reality of breastfeeding. It’s okay to feel overwhelmed and to need help. You’ll find yourself in some awkward positions, but it’s all part of the process. If you’re struggling, consider investing in a medical-grade breast pump. And on that note, let Matt assist you—he genuinely wants to help. Believe it or not, when you switch to formula at five months, you’ll miss those moments more than you expect.
4. Sleep Deprivation: I’m sorry to break it to you, but sleep deprivation is going to be a wild ride. It’ll mess with your mind, leaving you feeling foggy and irritable. But remember, this phase is temporary.
5. The Crying Guide: You’ll feel the need to create a detailed guide for your mother-in-law on why your baby cries. Don’t do it! Trust that she knows how to handle babies—she raised two of her own successfully. Let others help, even if it makes you a little anxious. Embracing support is an important step in nurturing your baby’s healthy development.
6. Language Development: Around 15 months, you’ll panic when your child is still only saying “buh.” You’ll rush to the pediatrician, but don’t fret; his speech will come in time. This is just a phase, and he’ll express himself when he’s ready.

And yes, you will add more kids to your family. You may wonder how you could love another child as much as this one, but your heart will expand in ways you never imagined.

Some things will remain constant, though:

1. People’s Interest: Not everyone will share your enthusiasm for your child. While friends and family may enjoy hearing updates, not everyone will want to hear about your little one all the time. Find a balance between sharing and maintaining your own interests.
2. Mama Bear Instinct: The urge to protect your child will never fade. Even as they grow, that fierce love will stay with you.
3. He’ll Always Be Your Baby: No matter how tall he gets, he’ll always be your baby at heart.

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In summary, this journey is incredibly unique and filled with ups and downs, but it’s all part of the beautiful experience of motherhood. Embrace it, one incredible moment at a time.