Hey there, my eldest child,
I get it; you’re the firstborn, the trailblazer, and you often feel like the head honcho around here. Sure, you were the original occupant of this household, and welcoming your younger siblings into your world can be a real challenge. You’ve got experience that they don’t, and you think that gives you some sort of authority. But let me tell you, if you don’t rein it in a little, your dear old mom might just do it for you.
When you shout, argue, or get in your siblings’ faces, it tends to lead to some tension—like when your little brother just lost his cool. I can’t say I blame him, either. Yes, we encourage using words over fists, but he’s exhausted all his vocabulary trying to connect with you. Sometimes, being the oldest means listening instead of dominating.
You’re certainly capable of doing things that your younger siblings can’t yet manage. So why not take that knowledge and help them out instead of barking orders? I promise, your kindness will be appreciated more than you know.
And let’s talk about the interrupting. It might be tempting to jump in every time someone speaks—especially at the dinner table—but it might be nice to just let others share their stories without jumping in to offer your opinion. You weren’t even around when your sister’s friend fell off the monkey bars, after all.
Also, can we please retire the excessive tattling? When you catch your sister sneaking a snack and come running to me with candy wrappers spilling out of your pockets, I’m going to raise an eyebrow. You’re not the neighborhood watchdog. I get that it’s a little unfair if she grabs one treat while you’ve snagged ten, but you’ll survive, I promise. Honestly, your constant tattling is starting to sound like background noise to me.
If your brother is happily absorbed in his own playtime, then please—give him some space. Pestering and annoying others seems to be your forte, but if it continues, you might find your siblings retaliating, and I might not be around to intervene.
Remember, you’re not the parent here—that’s my role. I’ve been waiting a long time for this, so stay in your lane. You’re free to play, daydream, snack, or climb a tree, but let me handle the heavy lifting. It’s my job to decide when your siblings are out of line, not yours. You’ll have your chance to be in charge one day, and believe me, it comes with its own set of challenges.
This is meant to be a happy family, so it would really help if you could occasionally keep your thoughts to yourself, at least for the sake of screen time. Deep down, I know you love your siblings, and one day, you’ll appreciate having them around—whether that’s for moving day, a car breakdown, or standing by you during your wedding vows.
So, my dear firstborn, it’s time to shape up a bit. Even though you hold the title of the eldest, you’re outnumbered here. And once your siblings catch on to that, well, you might find yourself in a bit of trouble. Take a breath, enjoy your time, and remember, there’s still a chance to earn some peace—for my sake and yours.
Love,
Mom
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Summary
This letter to the oldest child highlights the challenges of being the firstborn while addressing their need to listen, be patient, and not take on a parental role. It emphasizes the importance of cooperation and kindness among siblings, while also reminding them of the joys of family.
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