Updated: Aug. 4, 2016
Originally Published: Aug. 4, 2016
Just a couple of weeks ago, my son had his final band concert of the year. He plays the trombone, and while his journey into music started off a bit rocky, he’s now hitting all the right notes and has advanced to seventh-grade band.
As I sat in the crowded auditorium, I couldn’t help but notice that our family structure looked different from most. Instead of a single set of parents, my son was supported by two. Divorce, while unfortunately common, still brings a wave of awkwardness, and I felt that familiar twinge.
We all found ourselves seated together, united in our cheers for my son’s performance. I couldn’t shake the thought that if my marriage hadn’t ended, our family would resemble the typical image. But that’s just a facade, isn’t it? I felt a bittersweet grief over the impact divorce has on children—it’s a universal experience that affects all kids, not just mine. Yet, I am grateful for my children’s resilience and how they’ve adapted to this significant change in their lives. They are truly remarkable kids, evolving into wonderful young adults.
Instead of wallowing in what could have been, I focused on appreciating our unique family dynamic. My children are fortunate to have two sets of parents who genuinely love them and enrich their lives in ways I never imagined.
Their stepmother, Sarah, is a beacon of kindness. She pours her heart into supporting my children, ensuring they feel secure and valued. The bond they share is heartwarming, and I couldn’t have asked for a better role model for them. Importantly, she respects my role as their mother, which is something I deeply appreciate.
Then there’s their stepfather, Mike. He embraces my children as if they were his own, even going so far as to get tattoos in their honor. His unwavering support and fierce protection mean the world to them. He celebrates their accomplishments and acknowledges their father’s role, fostering a respectful environment that many families, even traditional ones, struggle to achieve.
I recognize that not every blended family has such harmony, and I feel fortunate that we generally align on parenting philosophies, helping create consistency across both homes. It hasn’t been easy, and I often reflect on the changes my children have faced—new homes, schools, friends, and routines. It’s a lot of upheaval for anyone, especially kids. I always wanted to shield them from anything that might disrupt their happiness, but life doesn’t always cooperate, does it?
I’m thankful that my children have four parents who are committed to their well-being when many only know one or none. They understand that love transcends the boundaries of their two homes.
As the band began playing Pharrell’s “Happy,” I found myself teary-eyed, overwhelmed with gratitude for the collective love poured into my son from all four of us. He is truly blessed, and so are we.
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In summary, embracing a blended family can be challenging, but with love, respect, and collaboration, it can also be incredibly rewarding.
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