Facial distortion can be a common reaction when I share that I have just one child over the age of four. While friends and family tend to be supportive, it’s often the random stranger in line at the grocery store whose face contorts in disbelief as they quickly ask, “When are you planning to have another?” They seem to hold their breath, anticipating the answer that we’ll be expanding our family soon. However, once I explain that we’re not planning to bring another child into our lives, I can usually spot a slight twitch in their eye. Here are ten actual responses I’ve encountered:
- “Aren’t you worried she’ll be lonely?” (Yes, because I keep her locked up and away from others.)
- “I knew an only child once, and they were spoiled rotten.” (Right, because all kids with siblings are perfect angels.)
- “You’ll probably change your mind as she grows older and wants space from you.” (Of course! My sole purpose is to combat my own loneliness.)
- “Are you unable to have more children?” (If I smack you on the back, will your scrunched expression stay?)
- “What about adoption?” (Oh yes, I hear Walmart has a good selection of kids. I’ll just pop in and pick one.)
- “I have five children, and it’s been rewarding. My youngest just got out of jail, but he’s learning.” (Thanks for the unsolicited family update. I’ll take lane five, please.)
- “When you pass, she’ll have a tough time sorting through your belongings.” (How’s that sibling rivalry over your dad’s will going?)
- “Does she mostly relate to adults?” (Sure, that’s why she fights to stay with her friends at school every day.)
- “Does she get whatever she wants? Must be tough shopping at Target.” (I wasn’t aware that having one child meant I couldn’t say “no.”)
- “What if something happens to her?” (Hmm, I hadn’t considered a backup. Are they on sale?)
Our decision to have one child was intentional. We understand our limits and prioritize quality of life for the long haul. Our trio does not lack any pieces; it doesn’t make my husband less of a father, me less of a mother, or our daughter less of a daughter.
This family of three is perfect for us, and that is all that truly matters. If you’re considering different family planning options, you might find this post on intrauterine insemination helpful. Additionally, for those interested in at-home insemination kits, check out Cryobaby’s range of products.
In conclusion, our family dynamic works well for us, and we embrace it wholeheartedly without the pressures of societal expectations.
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